[School of Art]Psych Station: Why do we always miss the past during the pandemic

I want to do good reporting East Electronic Arts 2022-04-28 14:22 Published in Jilin

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Unconsciously, three years after the epidemic, we are more and more nostalgic for those days when there was no health code。Even came2022Under the influence of the epidemic, our life has become no longer peaceful。

Now major social platforms“Miss the normal life without the epidemic”,“Travel before the pandemic”,“2019The summer of”As the heat gets higher and higher, the friends of the students often reveal their nostalgia for the past, reviewing the photos and images of the past over and over again, and even the more aftertaste, the more sad。Although the students repeatedly watched the happy fragments of the past, but let themselves more and moreemo。

If this is you, then you may be trapped in rumination。

rumination

Ruminant refers to the phenomenon that some herbivorous animals such as cattle and sheep return semi-digested food from the stomach to the mouth after eating for a period of time, commonly known as cud chewing。

Ruminative thinking in psychology specifically refers to:After experiencing a negative event, the individual repeatedly thinks about the negative event and its causes and potential adverse consequences, but does not think about the strategy to improve or solve the problem。

It is a persistent pattern of thinking, characterized by being self-centered, past-dominated, focused on negative content, and prone to falling into a vicious cycle that cannot be stopped。

Although a happy and free life was positive before the epidemic, in the current specific period, repeated nostalgia and even the more sad the situation will increase negative emotions。It is not so much that you miss freedom as that you are repeatedly reinforcing the negative effects of the negative events during the pandemic。Such behavior is also a kind of mental internal friction, long time to recall the past, ruminating, worrying about the future, can not enjoy the present life。

Fight rumination

分清“反省”与“反刍”

Is it good and bad, or is it just“坏”？ Also reflecting on past events,“反省”Including both the review of positive experiences and emotions, as well as the reflection of negative experiences and emotions“反刍”Focus only on the negative aspects of the experience。

Understand why we ruminate

Chronically under uncontrollable stress, rumination gains a sense of control by taking matters into its own hands。A recent neuroscience study of rumination may have revealed“rumination”The essence: the ego's excessive control over past experiences。Trying to control everything with a rigid set of criteria and suppressing those experiences when they exceed one's expectations may be at the heart of rumination。

How to stop in time

Wilde said that to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance。From this perspective, overcoming rumination is the beginning of loving yourself。Here are a few specific ways:

Keep track of and understand your emotional triggers“Make no attempt to resolve”练习。Your task in this exercise is: don't try to solve the thing that's bothering you right now。Instead of focusing on solving the problem and the emotions it causes, get on with what you're doing. This will help you get some distance to examine your thoughts and reduce your avoidance of negative emotions, thus reducing anxiety。

If you can't stop yourself for a while, take the initiative to incorporate it into your daily life and set yourself a routine“Rumination time”。

Don't punish yourself

There is nothing wrong with longing for the past, but being too immersed in the repeated contrast between the past and the present, and resisting accepting the facts of the present, is your own punishment。

I have a message for you,“No matter how hard you are now, whether you can see the scenery you want to go to, don't worry。The places you can do will bring you unexpected surprises, you will meet people you hate to meet, or encounter something that makes you feel worth it。It's okay to meet what you need to meet and accept what you can't change。The charm of life isn't getting what you want, it's getting it wrong。”

Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves, as we do now, we should look forward to the future and replace our obsession with the past with positive visions and plans for the future。

I wish you all: after the epidemic is over, you can do what you want to do, see the people you want to see, and see the scenery you want to see, without regret。